Healthy and UNhealthy grieving

Healthy and UNhealthy grieving

I think about this a lot. How self-destructive grief can become, if it is allowed to be. How we can quickly become trapped in a cycle of unhealthy grieving. All of us will do some things that may be considered unhealthy as we grieve. That’s not abnormal....
Baby Mine

Baby Mine

I had a major breakthrough last week. I held a baby and actually enjoyed it. I enjoyed cuddling and smelling and kissing and coddling. In a way that no longer felt like my heart was ripping out and my soul was being crushed, but in an “oh you are so sweet and I...
Don’t Apologize for your grief

Don’t Apologize for your grief

I will be the first to admit that in the months and even probably over a year following my infant daughter’s death, I had so little compassion for people grieving the death of an old person. I just could not understand when someone went on and on about the death...

Self-Care When You’re Grieving

It’s hard to even think about taking care of yourself when you’re hurting over the loss of a child. But it’s important to take time for yourself. To find something, anything that can help you feel good, even if only for a short time. I started to...
Upcoming Book about TTTS – Call for Submissions!

Upcoming Book about TTTS – Call for Submissions!

When I started blogging at No Holding Back three years ago, it was after my infant daughter died due to complications of twin to twin transfusion Syndrome (TTTS).  Not only did I need an outlet for my grief, I wanted to bring as much awareness as possible to TTTS....
Knowing when NOT to speak

Knowing when NOT to speak

I am often asked my opinion on what people should say to someone who has just lost a child or baby. Not because I’m some kind of specialist or professional, but because of my personal experience on the issue. My usual response is that while there are No Magic...
Children and Grieving

Children and Grieving

Today is National Children’s Grief Awareness Day – Children and Grieving My friend, and fellow Sunshine contributor, Kathy Glow, of the blog Kissing the Frog, has been gracious enough to share a post that she wrote about talking to children about death....
Resources for the Grieving

Resources for the Grieving

I am collecting resources to have on a page so that when someone comes here, they will have access to any type of service they might need. It’s something I wanted to have done by now, but it is a slow process. Pregnancy and infant loss awareness month is drawing...